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disneynut
01-17-2008, 10:08 AM
I am interested to know at what age should or did you start letting your girls wear makeup?? I know times have changed since we were kids. I have my oldest who will be 12 in Feb. She has wanted to start wearing makeup already and I keep saying no. She thought once she started Junior High this year she could wear it. I still said NO. I notice lots of other girls wearing it lightly and some not so lightly. What is your opinion. Also, I have been following Kycha's thread on the mineral makeup, I also had the question as to what to use to start for a young girl. I thought about taking her to mall, when I allow, to let someone show her how to apply. I just don't think she would like me doing it. You know, I don't know nothing in her eyes at this stage in her life. Anywhooo. Opinions would be greatly appreciated. No debates as to who is right or wrong, just opinions as to what age is it now a good time to start wearing makeup, LIGHTLY.

LuvMyBoys
01-17-2008, 10:13 AM
I voted for 14 because by that age most girls are in high school, which is when I would let a girl where make up. It's really nice when girls can get make up tips from a sensible older sister or cousin to show them how to apply it to make it look natural and not trampy.

However I only wear make up about twice a month so maybe I am not the best advisor! :rotfl:

m 'n c
01-17-2008, 10:22 AM
I started when I was in 6th or 7th grade. Well I say that but at the time I was not interested in putting forth the effort to put it on. My mom actually had to beg me to put it on for church and nice events. Most girls in my class started dabbling in makeup about that time.

I started with Elizabeth Arden and Clinique and then moved to Lancome in college. Once I discovered Sephora though I dumped those brands and went with Stilla, Urban Decay, and Too Faced -> all make long lasting/quality products.

I will say that my skin is fairly sensative to powders so I cannot wear just powder alone with no base and therefore can't wear mineral makeup so if she mentions her skin feeling itchy or red at any point take the makeup (whether it be powder, base, eye shadows, etc) you try back and try something else. If she wants a foundation/base then check out tinted moisturizer those give slight coverage and are lightweight.

Where in Louisiana do you live again?

linanglab
01-17-2008, 10:39 AM
I didn't vote because:

I like the idea of doing it in stages. When I was 14, I started wearing just foundation and powder. It helped even out my skin and helped hide those AWFUL blemishes - okay...ZITS! Also lip gloss was fine.

Then at 15 add eye makeup - NOT caked PLEASE!!!

Then 16 - the rest if needed. Blush, eye shadow. I hardly have ever worn any of this. I have pink cheeks, so I have NEVER worn blush. Eye shadow is something I rarely wear.

I just don't like to see young girls with these over made up eyes.

LuvMyBoys
01-17-2008, 10:44 AM
I didn't vote because:

I like the idea of doing it in stages. When I was 14, I started wearing just foundation and powder. It helped even out my skin and helped hide those AWFUL blemishes - okay...ZITS! Also lip gloss was fine.

Then at 15 add eye makeup - NOT caked PLEASE!!!

Then 16 - the rest if needed. Blush, eye shadow. I hardly have ever worn any of this. I have pink cheeks, so I have NEVER worn blush. Eye shadow is something I rarely wear.

I just don't like to see young girls with these over made up eyes.


I agree with Angela's tiered approach. There is nothing wrong with using some concealer and foundation if you are having some skin issues. However, these overly made up, dramatic eyes with all the black liner and dark eye shadows?? :confused: I'm not sure what the right age is for that.

disneynut
01-17-2008, 10:57 AM
Well I hardly wear makeup either. That is why I don't think I would be of any help to her anyway.
I am in the middle of nowhere in La. in a small rural area that has absolutely nothing. I am about an hour east of Shreveport though.:)
She does get the blemishes( aka ZITS).
Everything happens so much faster now with girls and growing up than it did back in the day. She has already gotten her monthly friend. :headache: :cry: That has been here for almost 2 years and I thought OMG she is too young. Already has breast, shoot I am still waiting on mine.:rotfl:

I agree with all the caked on makeup and on the eyes. I just don't get that and that will be one of those, Not while your under my roof things.

DisneyMa
01-17-2008, 11:06 AM
Well I hardly wear makeup either. That is why I don't think I would be of any help to her anyway.
I am in the middle of nowhere in La. in a small rural area that has absolutely nothing. I am about an hour east of Shreveport though.:)
She does get the blemishes( aka ZITS).
Everything happens so much faster now with girls and growing up than it did back in the day. She has already gotten her monthly friend. :headache: :cry: That has been here for almost 2 years and I thought OMG she is too young. Already has breast, shoot I am still waiting on mine.:rotfl:

I agree with all the caked on makeup and on the eyes. I just don't get that and that will be one of those, Not while your under my roof things.

DD12 started her period at 10!! Oh, and don't get me started on bra size! She is a 34D!!

I voted for age 14. Right now DD can wear some light color lip gloss. She does sparkles if she is going to a dance or we are going out somewhere fun. I won't let her start make-up until the end of her 13's. She is just too young and her body is already growing up too fast, I am not going to add make-up to it!

I personally don't wear foundation, powder or blush. I do my eyes and add a lip gloss. I'm a very simple jeans and t-shirt, light make-up kinda gal.

m 'n c
01-17-2008, 11:09 AM
Well I hardly wear makeup either. That is why I don't think I would be of any help to her anyway.
I am in the middle of nowhere in La. in a small rural area that has absolutely nothing. I am about an hour east of Shreveport though.:)
She does get the blemishes( aka ZITS).
Everything happens so much faster now with girls and growing up than it did back in the day. She has already gotten her monthly friend. :headache: :cry: That has been here for almost 2 years and I thought OMG she is too young. Already has breast, shoot I am still waiting on mine.

I agree with all the caked on makeup and on the eyes. I just don't get that and that will be one of those, Not while your under my roof things.

Start with clinique then since its available in most Macy's and Dillards. One tip my mom told me was when you go to the counter find a girl with similar coloring to you and whose makeup you like and wait to get her help. It will ensure that you won't get sold colors that don't match your skintone.

When I started out I got the eyeshadow duo seashell pink/fawn satin as its pretty neutral and gives just a hint of color. The other one I wore alot was angel eyes but I didn't see it on the site.


And I used this base as it was suppose to be good for oily/zit prone faces
http://www.clinique.com/templates/products/sp_shaded.tmpl?CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY4900&PRODUCT_ID=PROD687

sunshinecindy
01-17-2008, 11:15 AM
I think the idea of having someone at the makeup counters help you when you become of aga, and though I voted for 12, that means a very sparing makeup. If she doesn't have skin problems, I say no to foundation, not needed and you don't want blemishes to start. A little blush, some flavored lip gloss are a good way to start. I don't think eye shawdow at this point, but maybe down the road in a year, a little on the outer edges of the eyes would be ok. Nothing heavy. Anything she tries should have a natural look.

faithhope
01-17-2008, 11:17 AM
Thanks for this discussion...
My 10 yr old will probably get her monthly soon (judging by her mood swings).. but for the moment I've dodged the makeup battle... thankfully since I don't wear makeup...she isn't into wearing makeup either (thanks to a scooby doo episode mentioning that bat guano is used in some makeup). My younger daughter would love to wear makeup now though.

I think Angela's tiered approach makes sense. I let my 7 yr old wear lip gloss on special occasions, so thanks for getting this discussion going and for the great ideas... now I have a plan for the younger one.

SunshineGirl
01-17-2008, 11:23 AM
I like the idea of starting with a tinted moisturizer. ESPECIALLY because the good ones will have a nice SPF in them. So it teaches her a good lesson about actually caring for her face while at the same time letting her even out her tone. I'm one of those people who doesn't leave the house without makeup, but I can be content to run errands in just a tinted moisturizer and some mascara.

spring
01-17-2008, 11:40 AM
I voted for 15, but by that I meant using full make-up. Starting in stages makes a lot of sense, whatever the age. What is used would depend on the girl's skin type and needs. I really like the idea of using tinted moisturizer! I use it myself, and the SPF is a big plus. (If I knew then what I know now, I would have slathered myself with sunblock my whole life.)

missymouse
01-17-2008, 11:41 AM
My daughter was 13 when she got her first make-up. We went to a variety of make-up counters over a period of 3 weeks (usually twice a week) and had them do a make-up session with her. She kept notes about which ones made her itch, what colors each recommended, etc. Then she decided she liked the Estee Lauder the best. Then to surprise her one night my DH and I went out and bought her a nice make-up kit with all the Estee Lauder stuff the lady recommended. That being said she wore it diligently for about 2 months and now rarely puts any on at the age of almost 16. We didn't want her going out and getting cheap make-up at a chain store because then she wouldn't know how to use it.

I only wear make-up for special occassions so I am not a good role model in that area.


As far as the girls growing up sooner these days I agree with that. Don't remember the exact age of the monthly but she has been rather large busted (36DD+) since the 6th grade when I finally got her to give up wearing camis and get a real bra. Makes shopping for clothes very interesting.

MrsWonka
01-17-2008, 12:01 PM
I voted for 12 because that is how old I was when I started wearing it. My DD is turning 11 on Sunday and I don't think she will be wearing make-up anytime soon, not because I won't let her, but because she isn't interested in it yet (other than to play). I honestly don't think there is an "age" when it is right for all girls...you have to base it on your own child's maturity level and interest.

fourfoxesinpa
01-18-2008, 08:27 AM
I remember being 12 or 13 and wearing the Love's Baby Soft cologne and Dr. Pepper Lip Smacker - the BIG one! We all had big combs in our back pockets and we were lookin' goooood! :rotfl: I think a softly tinted lip gloss and maybe a mascara are fine for the early middle school girls. I think the key is to learn from someone other than Mom how to apply it appropriately so they don't look like clowns or something worse. :)

monorailsilver
01-18-2008, 10:11 AM
I couldn't tell you as I rarely wear make up.

I know my 6 yo loves to put her play make up on & she does a good job, better then me!

I think I started wearing eye shadow/liner/blush & mascara when I was in Jr. High (7th or 8th grade & definetaly for 9th). I never wore the powders as I have a good complexion & never needed it.

Ask me again in 5 years & I should give you a better answer.

kerry34
01-18-2008, 10:32 AM
When my girls started middle school (6th grade where we live) I let them wear lightly tinted lip gloss. I know alot of the girls were already wearing more, but that was what I was comfortable with at 12. My oldest daughter is 15 now and she basically wears some mascara and eye shadow and lightly applied lipstick, she doesnt wear any foundations since so far she has not had a big issue with blemishes. My 13 year old just wears a bit of light eyeshadow and lip gloss. She has really beautiful skin and is the type that in my opinion will never really need too much makeup. I always tell my girls "less is more". Nothing looks worse than caked on makeup, especially on young girls.

Tiggerific711
01-18-2008, 03:45 PM
I finally gave in and let my DD start wearing makeup last year in 7th grade. She usually only wears blush and mascara. I went to her school to pick her up one day and was amazed at how much make up some of the girls actually wear. They wear more than I do!:eek:

askomsky
01-18-2008, 07:20 PM
I voted for 13 bc I think that's when I started wearing it.
DD5 is already "playing" and very into the whole make up thing. DD4 will probably be like me and could care less.

I was lucky with good skin, so the only time I wore foundation was that time of the month to cover the "zits". Still to do this day I only own a compact that I replace once a year or so only bc i don't know when it goes bad.

My idea of make up? eyeliner and perfume. Those are the two things I put on before walking out the door and won't walk out without them on.

Special occasions? Lipstick, blush and mascara but maybe only once every other month. My aunt (who passed at an early age) and Best friend growing up (who now lives in NC) were both my "hair/makeup stylists" and would "make me pretty" for big events. I never cared enough to take the time to learn (not that I didn't care, just didn't like wearing it), so I will take DD's to a specialist or mall to have them show them how to put it on.

DH tells DD5 she can wear make up when she's 30!! So we'll see... Probably bc I'm not big into it, he'll try pushing it as far as he can.

chipndale
01-18-2008, 11:10 PM
I voted for 12 but I will let dd6 do it in stages. She already wears more make up than I do. :rotfl: She dances and it is required for all stage performances - fully lined eyes, mascara, blush, foundation, lips lined, lipstick....yes the hole deal. I hardly wear any makeup at all. I am a jeans and t shirt or sweatshirt type of girl with just a hint of makeup. So it was hard to let her wear all of the makeup. Thank goodness she sits still and is learning how to apply it herself. She does a very good job at it. I let her wear lip gloss now when we go out to eat. She gets mad because I won't let her wear it to school. I plan on letting her wear it to school in stages but she won't be allowed to wear it to school until middle school.

tinad171972
01-21-2008, 01:37 PM
I voted 14 because most girls start high school around then, and I think that is when my sisters and I started. Now I never wear any. the last time I wore any was at my sisters wedding almost 4 years ago.

missangie
01-21-2008, 02:36 PM
This is one of those tough teenage subjects, I think. I want my DD to understand that she is beautiful without makeup. Although, I know that the world around her, peers, Hollywood, etc. will suggest otherwise. I voted for 14 which is about the time my daughter will be getting out of the 8th grade and preparing for high school. It's a big deal, a right of passage really. I want it to be about enhancing the already beautiful features of a young women. I do not want her to try to create something that she thinks doesn't already exist. I think makeup should look natural too. Blush should create a glow on your cheeks, eyeshadow should be soft and enhance the color of your eyes, and lips should be moist and simply glossed.

I am a champion for talking to your kids about EVERYTHING. Makeup is just one easy open door to talk to your girls about self image, confidence, and even boys! It seems so simple to us, but to them it means something more. What is the "more" that your daughter is looking for?

Sorry, soapbox speech is over! Good Luck on your own makeup decisions!

speechteachri
01-21-2008, 07:26 PM
My dd is 10 and she is used to makeup because she does theater, but it is NOT something I let her wear everyday. She does, however wear lip gloss at times, and sometimes I brush a little blush on her for church, or a special occasion. She is very pale, like me. I will make her wait for anything more until high school, except for plays, of course.